To be biased, I do not dislike women living a life of being a kept woman (see, I actually can't say the common word for it) but, I am not fan of those women either.
I know there are reasons why you girls go for that kind of relationship with a committed man. I, actually, am disgusted with those men! How dare you marry a girl then have an affair with another?
Girls, have you forgotten one of the Decalogue (The Ten Commandments) or should I say two of that? First, you should not commit adultery and second, you should not covet (desire) anything that belongs to your neighbor.
Don't get me wrong, I understand that you feel something special for that someone that you choose to be with him even if he's already committed to someone. Or maybe, some of you just need his money to live. Either way, you're on the wrong track.
Have you considered the feelings of his legitimate woman? Do you actually realized how "world destroying" it is to know that her man was not hers exclusively? And what if they have kids? Have you considered how hurtful it is for their kids to accept that their dad have other woman? You're making their lives as well as yours miserable. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. Try to feel what she'll feel when she finds out that her husband has a mistress. Think this way, you're married with someone and that someone has another.
From the very start, you know it is WRONG to enter that "world" but still, you choose to go inside. This is how it happened...
You meet that j*rk. You got to know him, discovered how sweet he is. (C'mon! that's a man's special power! His charisma!) You actually knew he's married but then you let yourself see him the next time. You went out with him once, then it became a regular date, say, every other night or every night. He told you about his "marital relationship" which is way far from the true story (it's his main strategy!). Then, you extended your sympathy. Days passed by and then, he courted you, told you you're the one who could give back his happiness. He told you he's already "in love" with you (how easy it is to say boys!). You, at first, will say, "It's wrong! You're married". But still, you accepted his proposal because you've been blindly in love, too. (tadddaaa!) Your ordinary world turned out to be an "extraordinary world".
Girls, we're all given the so-called "instinct" to use them whenever we feel certain. First instinct that came to you is when you actually learned that he's married. Next, is when you told him he's doing a wrong decision. But what have you done? You ignored your instinct because you also felt happiness that time. I will tell you this, you'll never be happy for the rest of your affair as long as you know that he's NOT yours! You're a borrower, remember that!
It is all in your hands to leave that affair but you didn't. You held on for what? For the term you call "LOVE"? WTH! Are you too desperate to find a lover? There are many fishes in the sea for heaven's sake! Oh yeah, his wife and you have the same thing in common... "a man who tells you LIES". And by the way, are you sure you're the ONLY "other woman"? You may not know you're three!
Look this way, I am a friend not an enemy. I am just giving you insights about being "the other woman". It's also not a good psychologist do but it is my way of giving you good realizations.
It is hard to let yourself talk to others that you are in a secret situation for the main reason that you are afraid to be embarrassed! I know right, you still want people to think about you as a good saint with no flaws. You fear being called a home-wrecker, but why? You chose to be one! You should be proud! (Sorry, just got carried away..)
Okay, I am there with you, you've been in your situation because it is an "emotional" affair. But with him, is it? Or is it a "sexual" affair and you are just one of his sexual outlet? What if you got pregnant? How will you tell your parents? "I'm pregnant with a married man..." That baby will have a miserable life as well cause being an illegitimate child is the hardest to accept.
You will never be able to be proud of your affair. You'll always be behind those doors while he's out with his family. You'll lose your own family when they found out your illicit affair, even your friends. Your rightful best friend will fire you out of her life, though she doesn't want to, she's hoping you'll end up your "craziness" find your way back to your friendship. What else have you got? No one else but that liar. How can you trust a man who can't even be honest with his own wife? Wake up!
After reading this and you can still tell yourself, "No words can ever make me leave this affair!", then I surrender! I wish you luck! May you have the "happiness" and may you have "peace" in your heart.
To you cheaters out there, your ID is way high over your superego! You only want what's pleasurable that you lost consideration towards others. So where'd you left your ego? By the way, id, ego & superego are psychological terms in case you didn't know (as your brain is dysfunctional).
You, j*rks, should be condemned, not these women. These kept women are just your victims here. You are the criminals! Show yourself and be proud you are one hell of a cheater! How could you soundly sleep at night? Thank God you're not yet paranoid that your wife will cut your throat while your asleep. Oh well, one way or another, you'll have what you deserve. Not now but maybe, tomorrow.
For final words, I want to share this to you. I've read this somewhere.. "Love has its own reason. Destiny has its own way and karma has its own judgment."
***Note:
I wrote this as an outlet on how to tell my friend her mistake being one. Actually, I already told her some of what I wrote in here but unfortunately, my words got thrown to a trash bin. My cellphone load, my time, and efforts just got wasted. Our friendship? Civil as I can call it. I don't text her at all unless she text me. I am still her friend, though. Actually, I miss her. I really do miss her. I miss my friend, she used to be.
The night she told me about this, she said... "I love him, I've fallen. We'll hold on. I'm sorry."
My reaction? Of course, I am surprised! Just weeks ago, she told me there's no way she'll be with this guy. What the hell is she thinking? A guy's effort doesn't matter. It is his way of getting her trust, to capture her vulnerable heart.
I told her, "We promised not to break this friendship down no matter what. I am still holding on that to that promise. But when it comes to that guy, I'm backing off. I hope there would never come a time that you'll choose that guy over me."
She never got my support. I totally dislike that guy. For heaven's sake, he's married and has two kids! I asked if she has strength enough to fight for what she feels. She said, "Not yet but I am SURE about my feelings." (D*mn!) She even told me this.. "_______ is amazing if you get to know him." (I would not want to know him, nor meet him at all). I surrendered talking to her about this cause all she can say is that.. "I don't know what to say. I'm confused. I know you only want what's right." There, my words just got thrown! (In short, she can hear me, but she's not listening).
I know she needs me more this time, a friend to lean on and give her strength. Even if I wanted to, I couldn't even picture the moment I'm gonna tell her, "It's okay, every thing's gonna be alright." Because for the fact, that every thing's not right!
I know, I'm not perfect. I ain't always on the right track. But I know what's legal and moral. She can tell me, "How could you say those words when you yourself has your own flaws?" And I'll tell her, "Cause I am not against any law."
I'm hoping, SOON (as in now), she'll realize she'll have a better life without that guy. She's beautiful and she's lovable. She'll meet someone, not committed, who will give her happiness more than she could get from a liar.
My friend, I love you as always. When you finally leave him, I am just here with arms wide open. I will forget the day you got out of your mind and hugged you as if nothing happened. I hope it is soon. I miss you! Maybe, for as long as you're with him, expect me not to ask you about how your life is. I swear, I would not want to know what's going on with your life with him.
And if you're mad about this entry... I'm sorry! I just don't feel like telling it to you personally. I might do what other things aside from talking to you. I might even slap your face for you to wake up. I'm sorry.. sorry.. sorry..
